How we think staying with feelings in relationships is the best thing to do and how we might actually do that (even though it’s super hard).
We were inspired to do this podcast by a Dan Savage podcast where Dan suggested that a non-monogamous person starting a relationship with a monogamous person could always try a monogamous agreement for a while and then shift to a non-monogamous one.
We got to talking about the kinds of questions we’d like to answer on this podcast. Something that came up, initially seeming like quite a simple one, was embarrassing things happening during sex – like farting while receiving a blowjob. We decided to widen this out to cover the whole topic of toilets and bodily functions in relation to sex and relationships. It became rather deeper than we’d expected.
This podcast covers a very popular question that sex bloggers get asked ‘How to Get Laid’. We unpack what that means and as well as giving our usual kind and top notch advice.
In our podcasts we’ve been talking about how people can get better at consent, but what about people who practice deliberate non consent? What can we do?
Content note. We discuss how we might feel better about our bodies. So we touch on the social messages we get about bodies and this includes us talking about fatphobia, diets, ‘health’, disablism, but we don’t go into much detail. It’s a long one — sorry about that.
In this podcast we decided to talk about ‘what is romance…’, unpack it and kind of put it back together in a different form.
On this week’s podcast we answered a question about how to deal with trauma responses on a hook up. A content note up front is that this episode does cover issues of sexual abuse/assault and trauma responses/PTSD. So if those things are live for you right now you might want to think about whether you want to listen or not. FYI we don’t go into any description of abuse or assault, we do have a bit more detail about possible trauma responses (fight, flight, and freeze) and what those can look like.
In this episode we explore how to go about having a hook up consensually, given that this has been in the headlines recently with the story about Aziz Ansari.