What do I do if I’m horny all the time?
Question: My sex therapist is talking about solo sex as part of our work – but I only want to do things with my partner
This podcast is all about painful sex, with a focus on how to ensure that sex isn’t painful in ways that you don’t want it to be. We’ll do a future episode about how to bring pain or strong sensations into sex if that is something you want to do.
Having done 50 or so episodes of the podcast we decided finally to talk in depth about penis-in-vagina sex (PIV).
We got to talking about the kinds of questions we’d like to answer on this podcast. Something that came up, initially seeming like quite a simple one, was embarrassing things happening during sex – like farting while receiving a blowjob. We decided to widen this out to cover the whole topic of toilets and bodily functions in relation to sex and relationships. It became rather deeper than we’d expected.
In our podcasts we’ve been talking about how people can get better at consent, but what about people who practice deliberate non consent? What can we do?
On this week’s podcast we answered a question about how to deal with trauma responses on a hook up. A content note up front is that this episode does cover issues of sexual abuse/assault and trauma responses/PTSD. So if those things are live for you right now you might want to think about whether you want to listen or not. FYI we don’t go into any description of abuse or assault, we do have a bit more detail about possible trauma responses (fight, flight, and freeze) and what those can look like.
In this episode we explore how to go about having a hook up consensually, given that this has been in the headlines recently with the story about Aziz Ansari.