Heyyyyyyy! Welcome to our website. This is the place where we’ll bring together all of the joint projects we’re working on: our popular podcast, our book, our zines, our blog-posts, and our videos.
We also now have a Patreon page where you will be able to hear exclusive podcasts from us. We’ll still be posting blogs and podcasts on here, but every other podcast will be for Patrons only. We have a very lefty ‘pay what you can’ tier system so hopefully you will be able to support us.
We’re all about sex and relationship advice, ideas, and education. A lot of sex and relationship advice claims to be from ‘sexperts’ who can give you ‘the secret’ to ‘great sex’. We’re not about that at all! We’ve learnt a lot about sex and relationships over the years, but it’s important to remember that only you can be the expert on your experiences, your desires, and your relationships. We’re all in this together with the kinds of messages we receive about sex and relationships, and we all struggle with them.
We aim to write in an accessible way that’s inclusive of everyone rather than aiming at any particular audience, so you’ll find that we try not to make any assumptions about, for example, what gender you are, what kind of body you have, or what kinds of sex and relationships you may or may not like.
Who are we?
Justin has been a sex educator for a couple of decades, working with young people in schools, youth clubs, and clinics. He also trains other sex educators and runs the BishUK website and also now offers a one-to-one consultation service where you can get advice from him in person.
Meg-John has studied sex and relationships academically for a similar length of time, as well as working as a sex and relationship therapist, and doing a lot of activism in this area. You can find their solo website over on Rewriting-the-Rules.
When we started delivering workshops together and discussing our work we realised that we’d come to similar places from different directions. We noticed similar problems in sex education, sex therapy, and sex advice. We thought that bringing our different knowledge and skills together would result in something new, and hopefully helpful.
Who are you?
This website is aimed at adults rather than young people. If you’re a young person you might like to check out Justin’s website over on BishUK.
We’re hoping that this website will particularly appeal to you if you’re:
- Somebody who’s keen to enjoy sex and/or relationships more than they do
- Somebody who’s generally left out of sex and relationship advice (most people!)
- Somebody who hasn’t had much sex and relationship education (SRE), or who’s had poor SRE (again, most people!)
- Somebody who isn’t doing what they’d really like to do in their sex or love life or wants to try different things
- Somebody who’s struggling with sex or relationships in any way
We’re also really keen to answer your questions about sex and relationships, so please do send them in and we’ll try to answer them.