Our advice for if you are worried about masturbating too much and how the idea of ‘sex addiction’ might make things worse for people.

In this episode we talk about:

• Why it is that people worry about masturbation
• How what we hear about sex or porn addiction can exacerbate these concerns
• Why therapies for sex addiction might be problematic
• We unpack the historical cultural baggage around masturbation
• Which breakfast cereals we might masturbate with (and how that’s okay)
• Gayle Rubin’s idea of the ‘Charmed Circle’ (here’s the original essay)
• Three plugs for our book – Enjoy Sex (How, When and IF You Want To)
• Advice on how to deal with masturbating too much, including:
• Not not wanking, but paying more attention to your wanks
• Noting when you wank and why you wank
• Exploring the different reasons for why you masturbate
• How to change your relationship with masturbation
• Thinking about different strategies for enjoying wanking (such as the reward wank, rather than procrasturbation).

We hope you are enjoying these podcasts! We’re trying to do them every week or so. If you have a question that you would like us to read out and answer please visit this page for more info. You can even record your question on your phone for us to answer.